There has been a
couple of overlapping topic the past few weeks on Zaboys, and that has been
Empathy and Perception. Whether it be from Violators thoughts of the day, the
story of Caitlyn Jenner, or female aggressor domestic violence; the topic of
dealing with how other people see things has been prevalent. In the very agitated world we live in right
now, I think it is our duty as voices that people give their attention to, to
actually say some meaningful things at time; this idea I have being one of
them. We have 5 senses on our bodies that can be used to ascertain information
about the world around us for ourselves…but did you realize all 5 can be used
for Empathy, helping you learn perception through others. Touch, Taste, Smell,
hearing, and Sight are all essential in trying to understand the humans that
occupy our world with us…and maybe not exactly in the ways that you think:
Sight: Sight seems
like the most obvious one because of the phrase “seeing it through someone
else’s eyes” and while that works in theory we must remember the eyes lie. Don’t
trust the fact that you see what the other person is seeing, but instead try to
understand how they saw it. Were their eyes blocked by pre judgment of the
situation, was there a physical block that may have altered their view; maybe
they only saw the last second of a situation and not the whole thing. The
circumstances around events and beliefs can be seen by everyone if they would
just open their eyes to more than just what is laid before them.
Hearing: the world
moves at the speed of light, pretty much literally to our eyes; but sound is
much slower and it is also everywhere. It is as important to perception as
anything in life, and sometimes tells a clearer picture of ideas than the eyes
allow us. We can listen to tone of voice, words said, and the passion behind
them. We can feel the intensity as someone is really excited about a band, or
even become deeply saddened by the whispers of someone who just lost a loved
one. Some people hide things very well on their faces, but cannot help the
emotions that escape from their voice, if we take the time to listen.
Smell: Ok so maybe
only 4 of the 5 senses
Taste: Now we are
going to take Taste metaphorically on this one. I mean let’s be honest; I
believe you can tell a lot about a person by their taste in….everything. Music,
movies, art, religion, and everything that you decide to make you who you are,
its right there for people to see. Ever wonder why a buddy of yours acts a
certain way when anything about Caitlyn Jenner comes up, well if the only music
he listens to is Christian contemporary you might have a clue, or if your
boyfriend is always busy on Sundays; well does the guy like football. It shocks
me when people who claim to know a lot about their “friends” often don’t even
realize the subtle differences in taste between them. Hell, it amazes me that
people don’t understand that the entire WORLD has different tastes i.e. Soccer
isn’t an important sport.
Touch: Physical
touch is so important when trying to understand each other. It sets boundaries
and allows for true feelings to come out. Trust me guys, if she doesn’t even
like you touching her as friends, you got no chance in hell. Ladies, if you
keep letting him touch you; he is going to think he can keep touching you. It’s
not all about sexual touching though, because a common handshake or hug can let
you know exactly how the other person feels. The weakness or the inconsistency
of physical contact can mean a lack of caring for the other, or maybe a trauma
one has experienced. Be aware of how you touch other people, even with words.
Like I said before, people hear a lot more than they see, even if they don’t
realize it. Actions may speak louder than words, but the way you touch them
with both stay forever.
So there you have
it, straight from a man who only pretends to be Dr. Phil, but loves to talk
about the human experience. Maybe you have your own thoughts; I would love to
hear them.
@ThePositiveC on Twitter
@RadioZaboys as well
Zaboysmedia.com for all the rest of what we do…which is a
lot funnier than this!
-Chris "Positive C" Edwards
Founder and Co-Host of Zaboys
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